Keeping in mind that the ONLY person we can control is ourselves I ask that you read the following. YOU can, if you choose to, follow them all. Perhaps you both can agree to some and one day all of them. Start small, But start.
We will treat each other with respect at all times.
We will not use condescending or derogatory terms and exchanges with each other.
We agree to make our children’s needs more important than our own territorial needs or needs for independence.
We agree to respect the other parents time with our children and not interfere with the scheduled agreement.
We agree to respect the other parent's parenting style and discuss any concerns at agreed-upon communication times.
Any disagreements or areas of potential conflict will only be discussed at the designated times and not in front of or in earshot of our children.
We agree to follow the parenting schedule by always being on time for our children.
Any changes to the schedule must be discussed with the other parent first prior to informing our children.
We agree never to say negative things about the other parent to or in front of our children.
Our children will not be placed in any loyalty conflicts and will not be encouraged overtly or subtly to take one parents side against the other.
It is in our children’s best interest to have two parents who love and care for them and are involved.
"just a dad"
The Co-Parenting Survival Guide
Elisabeth Thayer Ph.D
Jeffrey Zimmerman Ph.D
New Harbinger publications 2001
"Just a dad" Comments and thoughts from a divorced dad's point of view.