In the summer of 2011 my then wife of 24 years and I divorced. We had two young children under the age of ten. Why this happened does not matter. It happened and four people's lives changed. Dramatically.
It was overwhelming. Divorce does not come with a play book. But it was 2011. There was the internet and support groups. Surely there was support just a dot com away. There must be many parents dealing with the same fears. Or better yet parents who had already dealt with these issues and whose wisdom would be shared with me. I looked at the number of divorces each year and knew there were parents to guide me. That dot com away.
I was wrong.
I searched for years. I met people who had been divorced for some time and were filled with anger. Their focus now on changing the legal system. Yet for many there appeared to be a central theme of feeling alone when they went through their divorce process. It seemed to me too that a significant common thread was overlooked. An important point of commonality that could keep us focused.
So Kids r First was formed. We check our anger at the door and we focus on what we can control. Ourselves. We look at the positive changes we can make. We choose not to be victims. And we promise to always remember that our Kids r First.
"just a dad"
This is what we strive to achieve
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